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Short, fun, honest guides for adults who are curious about casual dating, swinging and open relationships. Frank about what people want, never graphic about how, and always good-natured.
The guides
Each one takes a few minutes to read and ends with where to go next.
What does NSA mean?
No strings attached, explained: how it differs from FWB and a hookup, how to say it in your profile and the etiquette that keeps it drama-free.
Read the guide →Swinging for beginners
A calm, non-graphic first-timer guide for couples: the conversation, ground rules and a relaxed first meeting.
Read the guide →Open relationship rules
Eight agreements that hold up, from honesty and safer sex to handling jealousy and checking in.
Read the guide →Explore the topics behind the guides
When you’re ready to see how it works in practice, these pages cover each way of dating.
NSA dating
Chemistry, a great night and no expectations the morning after.
Explore →Swingers
Lifestyle dating for couples, from first-timers to experienced pairs.
Explore →Couples dating
Meet other couples and singles who respect your boundaries.
Explore →Open relationships
Open already, or thinking about it? Meet people who take agreements seriously.
Explore →Kink & BDSM
Roleplay and power play with adults who put limits first.
Explore →Discreet dating
Privacy you control: a username, your nearest town and one-tap blocking.
Explore →How we write these guides
- Light-hearted. Dating should be fun, so the guides are too
- Frank, never graphic. Plain words about what people want, with no explicit detail
- Everyone’s in on it. Everything here assumes every person involved is happy and agrees
- Adults only. Written for people aged 18 and over
Have a great time out there
Enjoy yourself, and our dating safely page has friendly tips for first meetings. Need a hand with anything else? The help page has you covered.
Experience, support and moderation
The guides: your questions
Are the guides explicit?
No. They’re frank about what people want and how to talk about it, but never graphic. They’re written for adults, and for adults only.
Do I need an account to read them?
No. The guides are free to read. Joining is free too, and takes a few minutes.
Do the guides cover affairs?
No. Everything here assumes everyone involved knows and agrees. If a partner doesn’t know, it isn’t NSA, swinging or an open relationship, and this site isn’t for affairs.
Where do I start if I’m new?
Begin with What does NSA mean? for the language. Couples can go on to swinging for beginners, and our dating safely page has friendly tips for first meetings.
Read up, then say hello.
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