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Discreet dating, with privacy you control
Your adult life is nobody else’s business. Flirt, chat and meet open-minded adults while you decide what people see: a username instead of your name, your nearest town instead of your address, and photos that show the mood rather than your whole life.
What others see ↓ · Your controls ↓
What other members can and can’t see
Discreet doesn’t mean hidden from everyone. It means you choose what’s shared, and the rest stays private.
A username, not your name
Members see the username you choose. Your real name and email address are never on show, which makes it harder for anyone to find you on social media.
A town, not your address
Location appears as your nearest town or city. Your street and your live location are never displayed.
Photos you pick
Every photo on your profile is one you chose to upload. Show a smile, an outfit or a silhouette; save the rest for someone you’ve met and trust.
Show the mood, keep the details
- Lead with a photo that hints rather than tells: candlelight, a side profile, a great dress
- Skip anything with your workplace, your car or your front door in the background
- Keep intimate pictures out of early chats; share only with people you’ve met and trust
- Images that may be explicit are blurred with a warning until the viewer chooses to see them
- Uploaded images, videos and text are screened by automated checks and human moderators
Who reaches you is your call
Block in one tap
Once you block someone, they can’t message you or see you anymore. No explanation needed.
Report from anywhere
Report a profile, a message or a photo from inside the site, and our moderators review it.
Off-site warnings
If someone pushes to move the chat to WhatsApp or another app, the site flags it, a classic early sign of a scam.
- Optional ID or video verification adds a badge, so you can tell who has proved they’re real
- Pick interests such as Discreet Meets or Private Meets at sign-up to meet people who value privacy as much as you do
- Keep chatting on the site until you’re comfortable; your number and surname can wait
No surprises on the money side
Joining is free, and you only pay if you choose to upgrade. You can cancel a renewing plan whenever you like: ask support or the chat assistant and follow the link we email you. Your paid features run to the end of the period you’ve paid for. To remove your profile completely, use the Membership page in your account. Everything, including refunds, is explained on billing & cancelling.
Somebody’s always watching the door
Automated checks and human moderators work around the clock to spot fake profiles, scammers and bad behavior, and our support team is there day and night. For first meetings, consent and safer sex, see dating safely.
Discreet dating: your questions
Can other members see my real name or email?
No. Your profile shows the username you pick. Your real name and email address stay with us and aren’t shown to other members.
Will people know where I live?
No. Your profile shows only your nearest town or city, never your street address or your live location.
Is discreet dating for people who are cheating?
No. Discreet here means private, not secret from a partner. If you’re in a relationship, your partner needs to know and be happy with it, as in an open relationship. This site isn’t for affairs.
Someone is threatening to share my photos or messages. What do I do?
Never pay, and stop replying. Save screenshots of everything, then block and report the profile so our moderators can act; a threat like this is also worth reporting to the police. Requests to take down unauthorized content get a fast response.
How do I cancel, or delete my profile?
To stop a paid plan renewing, contact support or the chat assistant and follow the link we email you. Cancelling stops payments, not the profile; to remove your profile and data, use the Membership page in your account. The full steps are on billing & cancelling.
What does it cost?
Signing up is free, and a free account includes a profile, browsing, daily suggestions and a small number of messages per day. VIP adds unlimited messaging and filters from $19.99 a week in the US; VIP Plus is from $22.99 a week. Prices are shown in your currency (USD, GBP, CAD or AUD) when you join, and every plan is on the prices page.
Private life. Your rules.
Create a free profile in a few minutes, share only what you want and meet adults who respect a little discretion.
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