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Open relationship dating: flirt freely, play honestly
Ethically non-monogamous, poly, newly open or still talking it through? Enjoy the flirting, the teasing and the nights out with people who understand that open means honest: everyone involved knows, and your agreements come first.
Open-minded, and upfront about it
There’s no single way to do an open relationship. What matters is that everyone knows the deal.
Couples who’ve opened up
Newly open or years in? Meet singles and other couples who respect what you’ve agreed, whether you play together or separately.
Poly and ENM people
More than one relationship, everyone in the loop. Find partners who are comfortable with that, and say so from the start.
Singles who like it open
Enjoy the flirting, the sex and the fun without exclusivity. Dating someone who’s open can be refreshingly straightforward.
Open, not secret
If a partner doesn’t know, it isn’t open. This page is for people whose partners are fully in the loop, and for the people who date them.
Say it clearly, save everyone time
- State your situation in one line: open relationship, poly, couple or single
- Mention whether your partner knows and whether they might want to meet too
- Be clear about what’s on the table and what isn’t, from sleepovers to protection
- Say how often you’re free. Honesty about time is part of respect
- Use recent photos, and decide with your partner which ones you’re both happy to share
Meeting someone new while you’re open
- Share the rules earlyMention anything that affects them before you meet: protection always, no overnights, a partner who wants a heads-up.
- Respect the other relationshipNever pressure anyone to bend their agreements, and don’t contact a partner unless you’ve been invited to.
- Start somewhere neutralCoffee or a drink in a busy place. No pressure, and nobody has to explain why they’re leaving early.
- Look after your sexual healthMore partners means regular testing. Be open about it; it’s part of the deal.
- Check in afterwardsWith the person you met and with your partner. Anyone can change their mind at any point.
Private, respectful, grown-up
Others see your username and nearest town, not where you live. Blocking takes a tap, and reports go to a moderation team that works around the clock. Planning a get-together? VIP private group chats hold up to 50 people.
Open relationships: your questions
What counts as an open relationship?
Any relationship where the people in it have agreed that seeing others is OK. That might mean an open arrangement with a long-term partner, polyamory, swinging as a couple or something you’ve designed yourselves. The common thread is that everyone involved knows and has agreed.
Can my partner and I join together?
Yes. Choose “A couple” at sign-up and describe what you’re both looking for. You can also join individually if that’s how your arrangement works. See couples dating for more.
I’m single. Can I date someone who’s open?
Absolutely. Many singles enjoy no-strings fun with someone who’s already taken, as long as everyone knows. Ask about their agreements early, respect them and be honest about what you want too.
What if someone isn’t really open?
If someone tells you their partner doesn’t know, that isn’t an open relationship. You’re free to walk away, and you can block anyone in one tap.
Do I have to pay?
Not to get started. A free account covers your profile, browsing, daily suggestions and a capped number of messages per day. For unlimited messaging, filters and private group chats, VIP is from $19.99 weekly in the US, and VIP Plus from $22.99 weekly. Checkout shows your local currency (USD, GBP, CAD, AUD).
Open, honest and ready to play?
Your profile takes a few minutes. Say who you are and what you’ve agreed, then let the right people notice you.
Count me in, it’s freeJoining as a pair? See couples dating.
